Choice – part one

September 16, 2008 at 4:20 pm 1 comment

Sometimes it is really hard to believe that life is supposed to be like it is. That it is supposed to be so hard. Really, can anyone tell me of something really valuable that doesn’t cost a lot? In Economics we say that the cost of something is what you give up in order to obtain it. That is the concept of opportunity cost, every choice has as its cost, if you walk to the mall, you can’t be at the bar, if you go visit you uncle, you can’t be fishing, if you buy an ice-cream, you’re giving up on a pack of crackers. It doesn’t really seem that tough when you’re comparing a walk at the mall or a beer at the bar, or when you choose if you want a strawberry or chocolate cake. The real issue is that this applies to everything. E.g. so she talked to you about that issue, she told you she wants to go away. This is a moment of choice, what will your reaction be? If she is the girl of your life, if you believe she is, because we’re never meant to truly know any of these matters in a world where the future is uncertain and information is imperfect, then you can decide to show her she’s wrong or, if you believe she is not that big of a deal to you, then you can decide to let go off your dream, that maybe wasn’t that dreamy, but more of a good feeling that could come to you in other ways. If you picture the situation like that it doesn’t become that hard but we have to add here the problem of misunderstanding and misevaluation. Maybe you didn’t really get what she tried to say to you, maybe you see her as the one girl for you but she never told you about that particular issues that changes the whole situation, maybe you think she’s not the one girl for the same reason, she has yet to show you that particular thing about her that will make you fall thoroughly in love with her. The mean fact about life is that you have to choose something, not choosing anything is still a choice, because someone or somewhat will be chosen for you. Each of these choices has very high costs. If you decide to show her you’re up to it, that the issue has a solution that you can pursue, that you can be whatever she needs you to, then you’re assuming the risks which are nowhere near low, you may be frustrated, you may be rejected, you may be unsuccessful. On the opposite hand, if you choose to let go you’ll have to deal with the fact that you’re giving up to some of the most precious you ever had, you will have to face the fact that you may never be as happy, as realized as you could. None of these options are wrong and neither one of them are right, it is very hard to take the moral judgment off them, to see them just as paths leading to a future situation that may or may not be better than the current one. It gets even more complicated than that, perhaps if we manage to take off the moral judgments the decision can get even tougher, you don’t have the moral points weighing any of the sides of the balance. Choosing is all about forgoing, is all about taking the chances, you can never know if the other path would have lead to a brighter future.


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  • 1. Grande Rael  |  September 17, 2008 at 10:49 am

    Once I lived the life of a millionaire,
    Spent all my money, didn’t have any care.
    Took all my friends out for a mighty good time,
    Bought bootleg whisky, champagne and wine.

    Then I began to fall so low,
    Lost all my good friends, have nowhere to go.
    I get my hands on a dollar again,
    I’m gonna hang on to it, till that eagle grins.

    Nooobody knows you when youre down and out


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